Balance is bullsh*t — so stop telling us to find it.

// sincerely, Mothers.

I think we should stop telling mothers who are in a season of struggle that they just need to “find a balance”.

Because in the 9 months I’ve been a mother, the pursuit of finding balance has only furthered my suffering & worsened the feeling that I’m not doing enough or getting it right. Because balance implies an evenness.

But motherhood is the farthest thing from even.

It requires a woman to give more, constantly. To give to her baby, her partner, her career, her friends, her household. & usually, it is only whatever remains that she can give to herself.

So no, finding balance isn’t the key.

I think our only hope of finding any peace is simply accepting that in this season of life there is no such thing as balance.

There is only doing our best with what we’ve got.

Xx